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By working with A Baby from Heaven Adoptions, you can look at as many profiles as you wish. You will look at profiles that most closely match the list of “perfect” family qualities you desire. These profiles are really like scrap books that tell you just enough about the couple to get you interested in wanting to know more about them. As an experienced facilitator, I recommend that you look through three to five different families. After narrowing the list to one or two, you can speak with the prospective families. Once you have talked to the couples, you will want to choose a family.

Once you have chosen a family, you will want to have a face-to-face meeting with them if an open adoption is your preference. You can do this in a neutral place, like a restaurant. The birth father should be invited if he wishes to meet with them, your parents or possibly one other friend. The goal of this meeting is to learn more about each other. Be prepared to be open. Ask questions and let them ask you questions as well. It will most likely be at your first face-to-face meeting that you will begin to realize the magnitude of the decision you have made. Choose parents that come closest to your ideal. Your heart and your instincts will let you know which couple is best. Here is a list of recommendations for taking the next step:

• Write down why you are releasing the baby for adoption and read it all the time.
• Keep a journal, writing to your child every day, using the name you have chosen.
• Make a list of the things you want to find in your adoptive family, have a list of questions for the family.
• Review profiles of potential families.

There’s no doubt you have a picture of the best home and family for your child. Adoption creates an opportunity to make that picture a reality, by providing you with an opportunity to select the family you want to give your baby. The following questions will help spark other important issues that may be important to you in creating the best home and family for your child.

• How long have you been married.
• What makes your marriage strong.
• How many other children do they have, or plan to have.
• How did they reach the decision to build their family through adoption.
• Do you have pets, and if so what kind.
• What part of the country does the family live in. What is their neighborhood/community like.
• What religion do they practice.
• How comfortable are they with contact if you choose open adoption.
• Are they college educated.
• Will one parent be a stay-at-home parent.
• What will make them the best family for your baby.
• Tell me about your extended family.
• What are their hobbies, interest, and dreams for the future.
• What are your beliefs about discipline.

If you can hear only one thing to help you through this decision-making process, it is this: When you truly love someone as you love your child growing inside you right now, you want God’s best for him or her, whether or not it includes you. As hard as it may be to remember, you must realize that the person whose life is most affected by your decision is that of your unborn child. Think of your child’s future. There is no right or wrong decision, only a decision that is best.