Facing an unplanned pregnancy? Feel
shocked and overwhelmed? Do you feel alone and need someone to
talk with? That’s why we are here!
At A Baby from Heaven Adoptions we
understand the questions and uncertainties that can come with an unplanned
or untimely pregnancy. We offer free, confidential, 24
hour emotional support to assist you in addressing those questions
and making the best decision possible for yourself and your unborn
child.
A Baby from Heaven Adoptions is
committed to matching loving birth parents with special adoptive
families. If you are a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy, a concerned
birth father, grandparents of the unborn baby, or a friend who
cares, please contact us at (800)
364-6933 or
by completing
the contact form. Although the adoption community
sometimes overlooks your contribution and sacrifices, we want you
to know that we understand your decision is an act of love! We
believe that adoption is a life-giving option!
If you have already considered all of your options
and have decided to place your unborn child for adoption, we can
begin by assisting you with selecting a family, obtaining the financial
support you need, and completing the necessary paperwork. Most
importantly, our primary focus is to be supportive of you and assist
you through what can be the most difficult decision, both before
and after the birth of your child.
Our commitment is to allow you the privilege of
choosing the adoptive couple and to plan your child’s future.
There is no charge to birth parents for any services
provided by A Baby from Heaven Adoptions. Our services include
but are not limited to the following:
I’M PREGNANT'
When you first found out that you are pregnant
you probably thought Why Me? What about my future? What am I
going to do?
When you find yourself unexpectedly pregnant
you’ve got some major decisions to make. You owe it to
yourself to take the time to explore your options and decide
what is best for you and the tiny growing person inside you.
This information was created to help you consider the possibilities.
By reading it carefully you’ll be one step closer to making
one of the most important decisions in your life.
Those who know you are pregnant will probably
have lots of advice for you. Some may say that you have the right
to control your own body and that abortion is the best answer.
This may seem like an easy solution, but it
is not. Most pregnancies are not even detected until the 6th.
Week. By then, your baby’s heart has been beating for three
weeks, brain waves can be read, the nervous system has been complete
for about two weeks and she is about to begin moving, although
you will not feel it for three months more.
Knowing all this, it’s hard to realistically
believe that abortion is just a matter of controlling your own
body. There are now two of you to consider. Abortion does nothing
to help your unborn child; it may serious far reaching consequences
for you.
Knowing that you ended your Child's life without
giving her a chance can be a devastating emotional burden to
carry. Also physical complications from abortion are far more
common than you might think. It could damage your reproductive
system and make it impossible for you have children later in
life. Don’t allow yourself to be talked or forced into
a decision that you may regret for years to come.
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WHAT DO I DO?
There are ways of looking at your pregnancy
that respect both you and your baby’s lives. Think about
focusing on choices that are positive and life-affirming, such
as:
Keeping your child yourself or within your family
Placing your child in foster care for a period
of time
Placing your child for adoption
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ARE YOU READY TO BE A PARENT?
What’s most important right now is deciding
who can provide the best environment for your child’s physical
and emotional upbringing. Ask yourself:
Am I capable of dedicating the next 18 or more
years of my life to love and be responsible for my child, and
to place concerns for his well being above my own? Could raising
a child include my own school career and social goals?
Could I do this without having to depend on
my family to take over for me?
If you answer no to any of the above questions,
you ought to seriously consider adoption as the best and most
loving life-giving choices for you and your child.
It may be difficult to imagine releasing for
adoption the child who you have loved enough to give life and
nurture for nine months. Still, why not try to open yourself
to the possibility by trying to understand adoption better? The
following questions will help you to grasp more fully the effect
the adoption would have on your own life, and on that of your
child and family.
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WHAT IS ADOPTION?
Adoption is a legal procedure, which places
a child with adoptive parents who raise the child as a member
of their own family.
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IS
ADOPTION PERMANENT?
Yes. The child becomes a legal member of the
adoptive family. Some states/ provinces allow a period of time
after the child is placed for the birth mother to reconsider
her decision.
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HOW IS ADOPTION DONE?
There are two main parts to adoption. Most obviously,
the birth mother must agree to release her child for adoption.
In some areas the father of the baby is also required to give
consent. Likewise, a couple wishing to adopt must apply and be
accepted as prospective adoptive parents by a government approved
agency. A thorough home study is done to ensure that the couple
will be able to provide care and love for a child.
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AM I SELFISH TO CONSIDER
ADOPTION?
No. It means that you are concerned about being
a good mother and sensible enough to realize that raising a child
can be difficult, even with the help of family and friends. It’s
not selfish to choose what is best for you and your baby. You
have already given your child the ultimate gift—Life.
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DON’T
CHILDREN BELONG WITH THEIR BIRTH PARENTS?
Sometimes a birth parent is not ready to raise
a child. Adoptive parents may be better equipped to provide the
permanence and security that children need.
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ISN’T IT BETTER
IF I MARRY MY BOYFRIEND AND WE RAISE THE BABY?
Wanting to provide a secure family for your
child shows your love and maturity because you realize that raising
a child in a loving family is important. However getting married
because you are pregnant is often a poor foundation for building
a family. Marriage failures are high for those who marry under
such pressures.
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WHAT IF MY PARENTS AND
FRIEND PRESSURE ME TO KEEP THE BABY?
It may be hard for your parents and others to
know that you are considering adoption. Your parents may be thinking
of a grandchild, your boyfriend may think it’s his duty
to be a father, and your friends may be thinking of a loving
and cuddly baby. Ultimately the decision to release your child
for adoption or raise your baby yourself is one that you will
have to live with for the rest of your life. It should be a decision
that you should make after you consider your options carefully.
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WHEN DO I HAVE TO DECIDE
ABOUT ADOPTION?
You can decide at any point in your pregnancy
or after the baby is born. Most birth mothers chose to place
their child for adoption before the child is born. If a woman
wants, she can also place her child in foster care while she
makes the decision. However many have found that making a commitment
to adoption before the birth makes the placement easier for the
birth mother.
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WHAT
WILL OTHERS THINK OF ME FOR CHOOSING ADOPTION?
Those who care about you will understand. Most
importantly, you will know that you have made the right and loving
choice for you and your child.
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HOW DO BIRTH PARENTS FEEL
AFTER PLACING A CHILD FOR ADOPTION?
It is normal to experience grief after an adoption,
but this sadness is a healthy part of life-it means you realize
that healing must take place. Still, many birth mothers will
say that afterwards, that the peace of mind that came from knowing
that you helped give your child the best possible start in life
can be a real source of strength.
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WILL
MY BABY BE WELL TAKEN CARE OF?
Adoption agencies have long waiting lists of
couples who are unable to have children and who are ready to
love and raise a child. Authorities estimate that 15 to 20 couples
wait for every healthy infant available, and many families are
waiting to adopt babies who are born with handicaps. Many couples
wait for years and years for a “chosen child”. Some
wait forever…
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WILL
I KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT MY BABY’S NEW PARENTS?
This depends on the degree of openness in an
adoption. In confidential, birth and adoptive families don’t
exchange any identifying information (i.e. full names and addresses).
With semi-open adoptions birth parents and adoptive parents will
know each other by first names only, but an adoption agency or
third party mediates all communication between families. Open
adoption permits the most communication between both families,
which aids adjustment and eliminates the need for searching for
birth parents later in life if the adopted child chooses to do
eventually do so.
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